Watch your comfort zone - Fear - Part 2.

Hey Guys,


Hope you had a wonderful week, and I’m just going to say I had a wonderful week as well..
Was at the Don Moen†f concert and it was wonderful…

                      So to finish what I started a few days back… Fear!!

Ok, so sometimes fear can come out of comforts as well? I know you are like huh!! I can explain..

Ok imagine a comfort zone in your life, it can be the current job, friend circle, the wrong person in your life, well the list can get pretty big, so just go ahead and think of all those areas of your life, and now comes the difficult part..

Think of all of those comfort zones as a prison, and consider you living there in that self created prison with a huge collection of cant’s, must’s and must not’s, and so many other beliefs without any founding rationales, give or take some negative thoughts and some accumulated thoughts and decisions reinforced during various stages of your lifetime.. Ok, now imagine fear to be each bar in that prison, that can be tight man!!

So, here’s something a great writer Michael Ignatieff wrote:
“Living fearlessly is not the same thing as never being afraid. It's good to be afraid occasionally. Fear is a great teacher. What's not good is living in fear, allowing fear to dictate your choices, allowing fear to define who you are.”

So guys stand up to fear take that risk, stop playing safe, refuse to settle for less than what you’re due, what you have sweat and labored for, and not less than what God has planned for you!!

So if fear is the devil, stand up to him today.. So make that big decision and pass the verdict on his face.

Go on guys live life nothing short of his plans, don’t limit yourself to the negatives and comfort zone. Live BIG with Christ!!!

Dare your Fear - Part 1.

Hi guy's, I am back...

So here's a perspective on Fear and how to tackle it, we will discuss it in a series, hope you find this helpful.

Fear is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger, but often at times it leaves your mind with a block, that cannot be easily overcome. That’s when we the basic survival mechanism gives you the antagonistic effect.

Here’s when we need to dare the fear.

I was reading somewhere about how elephants are tamed and one of those things that came of interest was how animal trainers used to control a five-tonne elephant and keep it from running away. They did it by controlling the animal's thinking. When a baby elephant was being trained, a rope was put around its leg and then tied to a wooden post secured in the ground. The elephant, which was not yet very strong, pulled at the rope but was unable to break it or to pull up the post. Eventually it gave up. From that point forward when the elephant's leg was secured it believed it couldn't get away-even though it was fully capable of escaping, and had been for a long time. It remembered its struggle. That's one reason it's said, 'Elephants never forget.' And we are like that too. Our thinking limits us, just as an elephant's does. Usually it's because of fear.

The truth is fear can steal your dreams. You may be afraid of failure. You may be afraid of rejection. You may not want to make a fool of yourself. You may be afraid of trying because you believe you can't succeed. If you give in to these thoughts and believe that you can't achieve your dream, you'll be right-and therefore unable to achieve your dream. Often what we fear has no connection to reality. But here's the good news:

Fear can be overcome.

The first step to overcoming it is to believe God when He says about you: '...You are my servant; I have chosen you...do not fear, for I am with you...I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand'

The words 'fear not' appear in the Bible all the way from Genesis to Revelation, since God understands that fear is not only our biggest enemy but our constant companion, and He wants to help us overcome it. It consists of a collection of "cant’s, musts, must-not’s," and other unfounded beliefs formed from all the negative thoughts and decisions you have accumulated and reinforced during your lifetime.

The good news is, because fears are feelings, the faulty ones can be removed by faith in God, and you can become free from them.

Domino Effect

Hi guy’s, hope you all had a wonderful week, so did I and I’m here to keep my word on blogging once a week!!

So I was reading some stuff about domino effect and at the end of which I really felt this could be closely related to the full spectrum of human emotions.

So to begin, what is Domino Effect?

A chain reaction that occurs when a small change causes a similar change nearby, which then will cause another similar change, and so on in linear sequence.

Didn’t think so much, when you played Dominoes right? Neither did me.

So here’s why I linked that with the human emotions, with a few examples to help you think:

On a clear bright day when all was going well, have you been called by an angry friend and after speaking to him or her, did you feel the same?

Have you ever felt disgusted or annoyed with a person you thought to be good, just because you had a friend call up and do a character assassination?

Do you feel a superior in caste, creed, religion, or fundamentals, when compared to someone else in  your social circle?

If the answer to any of the questions above is yes, then you are undergoing the Domino Effect!!

Relax, we can handle them, let’s figure how?

Identify and control the impact of difficult people on you, so that you can keep the situation from getting worse.

Recognize atleast a few common types of difficult people in your life and learn how to handle these difficult people, if it does not work, learn to avoid them.

Know how to act not react in solving situations so that you can approach your work and life with more confidence and enjoyment.

Effectively handle those that push your buttons including the know-it-all, the intimidator, and the gossiper.

Most of all try to think logically; before you let your emotions erupt from within.

Try and make sure that the wrong people don’t control or sabotage your emotions and intellect, be a reasonable person and reason any situation in your mind, before you reach the verdict.

                       So “Keep your remote, out of reach especially from wrong hands”

“Frustrated – Huh”

                                                                   

Hi folks I’m back, guess it took me a while so let me  not convince you with my usual excuses. So to make it sound better this is the new me trying to Blog at least once a week. Hope this makes a difference to somebody.

So why frustrated? well most of our life we spend being frustrated about something or the other, well atleast I know I am. It could be the job, relationships, situations, and you know what, even God,  unreal ? But it’s true. 

Like always it always happens in the mind and that’s what keeps fascinating me, so I thought we would just take sometime to think about it, who knows maybe we can even figure out how to get out of the mess of frustration and stop cribbing!!!

                                                      WHY Frustration?

Let me try and answer this, 9 out of 10 times it’s of the way we look at our lives. See we have 2 ways of looking at life and its broader picture based on some dreams or hopes that we carry – “Idealistic and Realistic”

So wading through the pile, I’m making some bold statements here by being mean:

There is no such thing as an Idealistic Life, here’s why:

Because it depends on everything being perfect. Life is, at best, messy. It's filled with surprises-both good and bad. If you need the ideal picture of your dream to come into being in order to feel fulfilled, you will never be fulfilled. That doesn't mean you should cast aside your ideal vision. It is useful for helping you to establish goals, find internal motivation, and strive for excellence. However, you also need to temper it. 

Where idealistic dreams expect to be realized immediately, realistic dreams make you appreciate the time it takes them to become a reality. Where idealistic dreams do not tolerate anything less than perfection, realistic dreams leave room for you to be human and imperfect. Where idealistic dreams set you up for disappointment, realistic dreams set you up for success.

                 The man who never made a mistake, never made anything. 

So keep next time you think you made a mistake pick yourself up and say:

                          “What the heck, I’m a realist and this is Life”

Stress or did someone say change!!

Its been some time, since I have done some blogging, so I decided whatever happens, I'm doing some writting ... Well, the next challenge..."What to put in".. So let me start by what I and most of us are constantly going through - STRESS!!! 

I tried to look for some pictures and I pretty much liked the one I just posted here... "Hanging by the thread" , coming back to Stress, since we can't escape change and most importantly, the stress that goes with it, let's look at some ways to handle it!!

So here's a few:

1. Choose our battles wisely, dont jump into something you cannot handle.

2.Try becoming more adaptable, acceptance could also be the word that goes well here.

3.Welcome new experiences.

4.Learning to live with uncertanity.

Well, this I realise when we stop caring, life looses its charm and ironicaly, we end up being more stressed, also when moving forward in life, our surroundings are constantly going to change, yea change is inevitable. Well if they are not, trust me we're going in circles.

Phil 4: 11 says "I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances"

Paul here says that he has learnt ( a process that took him some time), in whatsoever state to be content.

 Well that just means that clinging to the familar than accepting change, might buy you some comfort today, but trust me,that going to be at tomorrow's expense.

Like someone said " Trying to stabilise in an ever changing world is like trying to push water up hill - as soon as you get tired, or you stop, the water is just going to gush back on you!! So its best to learn to live with the loose ends that life holds, knowing that "He is in control", rather than trying to make sure that life happens on our term's.

Cast you burdens on him.

Psalm 55:22 :- "Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall." (NIV)

Sometimes it feels so strange that we carry heavy loads on ourselves, even though Jesus has asked us to cast our burdens on him. Often in life even though we are aware of what the scripture speaks, it is so true that we are not ready to lay down our burden at the cross, we are so attached to the luggage’s that we carry that we are too not interested in laying them down at his feet.

We carry the luggage as a back pack down to the cross of Calvary and stand there looking at the cross and speaking out loud “Thank you lord, thank you for helping me reach here to your presence, I didn’t think I could make it out  here"

Then we stand and wait there with the luggage, Jesus looks down at us and expects us to throw the luggage down and shout "I'm Free", but most of us would stand their like a small child who does not want to give away his teddy. We end up being so emotionaly attached to the luggage we carry, that we cannot detach ourselves from the luggage.

Friends, just as it is important that we carry our luggage’s that burden us to him, it is also important that we cast it there in his presence. Let us learn to do away with our luggages, let us learn to be free...

So sing aloud “I’m FREE"